Answer These Questions to Evaluate Your Relationship

To determine whether your relationship is abusive, answer the questions below. The more “yes” answers you record, the more likely it is that you’re in an abusive relationship.

Do you:

  • Feel afraid of your partner much of the time?
  • Avoid certain topics out of fear of angering your partner?
  • Feel that you can’t do anything right for your partner?
  • Believe that you deserve to be hurt or mistreated?
  • Wonder if you’re the one who is crazy?
  • Feel emotionally numb or helpless?

Does your partner:

  • Humiliate or yell at you?
  • Criticize you and put you down?
  • Treat you so badly that you’re embarrassed for your friends or family to see how he/she treats you?
  • Ignore or put down your opinions or accomplishments?
  • Blame you for his abusive behavior?
  • See you as property or a sex object rather than as a person?

Does your partner:

  • Have a bad and unpredictable temper?
  • Hurt you, or threaten to hurt or kill you?
  • Threaten to take your children away or harm them?
  • Threaten to commit suicide if you leave?
  • Force you to have sex?
  • Destroy your belongings?

Does your partner:

  • Act excessively jealous and possessive?
  • Control where you go or what you do?
  • Keep you from seeing your friends or family?
  • Limit your access to money, the phone or the car?
  • Constantly check on you?